My Thought of the Day

Lost's Addiction

                                              

I am addicted to you, and the way you twist me around your finger with the wicked ways

For I am helpless and I cannot control the way you make me feel, or the deny that it is real

It is the way you are, with the sounds you make that drives me insane

With every breath that you take, I swear I feel my heart ache
You are the perfect drug, you leave me high feeling like I can fly

What can I do, you have taken something I cannot deny
You are the the keeper, the sole keeper of the key to my heart
I surrender, I shall not resist, the lure of your charming ways
I find it harder to breathe when you are near, and I can hardly bare to be apart

I wish it were that easy to pretend that you have not bewitched me

For it is true, I admit to you I am addicted to how you make me feel

I am addicted to you, and the sound your voice lingers dancing around playing ticks on my mind

With each passing day as my walls come crashing down, I find myself staring at the door

I hear sounds, it is you knocking, and I am torn and petrified of what we will find.

I beg you please try to understand that I am trying as hard as I can

Why can’t you see what is so obvious to me?

-Lost N Her Element



 Artist: Saving Abel            Song Entitled: Addicted

A Social Enigma: The Confession of a Social Butterfly

"Flirtation: attention without intention." ~Max O'Relly

I want to talk with you guys about something that has been stirring about my mind as of late. What in the world is Vary talking about, you may be wondering. Well, I am talking about how men and women interact is social settings online and in the real world. In the past, have always categorized myself as a self proclaimed ‘”social butterfly’” more commonly known as a flirt. 

And yes, I am guilty as charged my friends - I am a flirt. Not in a "sexual way," more so in a "southern charm/smile/pour syrup on that sugar way"... that is..When I want to. I don't always want to. Mostly I am cynical and sarcastic. But when necessary, I turn on what we call that "ole southern charm." I personally think that Southern girls learn really early, a wink and a smile will get you far. We draw out our vowels, turn this "sing-songy" voice on which is just an octave or so higher.. bounce around a little more- cock our head to the side, open our eyes a little wider & brighter.

It’s been said that women are natural flirts. You know the one I am talking about. We all know her, the girl who seemly lights up a room when she walks in, she sometimes uses courtship methods such like smiling, flipping their hair and fidgeting with their attire. These enable her to take control when they meet strangers. She often appears as someone who seems to have a carefree heart, and friendly to just about anyone. 

Generally, the initial subconscious flirting gave females time to assess the men. The only time the she might respond negatively would during the incidences where the men talked too much. Nonetheless, in most social settings, women who were the ones that controlled the situation and their physical action had a direct effect on the males. Simple gestures like nodding their heads kept the males talking. I believe that you can predict male behavior from female behavior, but not the other way around.

I’m just that kind of girl who smiles a lot at random strangers. Nine out of ten times you will catch me with a smile pasted on my face. Not a cheesy one, but a 110% confident inspired smile from ear to ear. And it has nothing to do with the need to attract the opposite sex more to do with my overall outlook. Actually - it's flirting. Not with you in a sexual way. It's our nature to make Ya feel good about Ya. We do it with men and women. 

So guys, the next time you see a babe giving you a lingering look or a charming smile, stop yourself and consider that - she might not be interested in you after all.

So, what is my conclusion? The simple rule to follow is be respectful always and flirt responsibly. If you find the overwhelming need to seek attention from others, you should consider that you are not ready for a committed relationship, because honestly, the only attention you should be enjoying is that of your partners.

Lost’s Reflection: In hindsight, flirting to me should have a purpose, it’s a tool for single people to let someone know you like them and maybe even a way for all of us to occasionally get your ego stroked by strangers from time to time; it will boost your confidence and make us a lot more fun to be around, but one word of caution, if you flirt with everyone all the time you will confuse the people you are actually trying to impress or maybe even make your partner uncomfortable wherein causing undue stress and strain in your relationship.

Besides, it is the sending and feeling mixed signals is what landed me in this mess in the first place. What mess you ask? Well, I had befriended someone recently, he was feeling down and had just broken up with his girlfriend so, I was consoling him, being his sounding board and offering him comfort during this low moment in his life. And before you know it, he is confessing to me his interest in pursuing a relationship with me sighting this unbreakable connection he felt we had built. So, unbeknownst to me I had apparently created a potentially uncomfortable situation for the both of us. He later confided in me, telling me that he felt I had sent mix signals giving him the green light to pursue me. Which I swear, I had no clue I did. So, it seems that my friendly outgoing nature subconsciously sent out mixed signals. Which can obviously confused people and lines can be crossed.

Again, there is nothing innately wrong with flirting in general its quite natural, but when it become a high intensity, and interaction things get a little murky and when you flirt with the others, it could comes across as being slightly disrespectful, regardless of whether there is a response. Even if the flirting doesn’t lead to anything more serious, flirting still takes energy away from your relationship and directs it elsewhere. Essentially, it simply is not consistent with what I feel in the best interest of protecting and building relations between a couple and you can mislead or send mix signal to the other person wherein creating an unpleasant situation for all those involved unnecessarily.

Lost Challenge: What kind of flirt are you?

Flirting is often how relationships start — and now there's a new way to tell just what kind of flirt you are.

A study in the on five types of flirting behavior, based on responses from more than 5,020 adults over 18, with an average age of 39.8. Of the sample, 52% were single, never married, and 43% were divorced but no longer in a relationship."The vast majority of the samples are people who would consider themselves to be on the market. The rest are casually dating," says co-author Jeffrey Hall, an assistant professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas in Lawrence. "The flirting styles inventory is for the very first stage of romantic development.""

The study identifies five styles of flirting. Hall says every person uses a combination, but one style may be more dominant.

The most common flirting styles are:

•Physical: People who scored high on this type often develop relationships quickly, have more sexual chemistry and have a greater emotional connection to their partners. The relationships tend to focus more on sexual interest.

•Traditional: These believe men should make the first move and women should not pursue men. Women are more likely to have trouble getting men's attention or to flirt and men take a longer time to approach a women. Both men and women with this style tend to be introverted.

•Polite: The focus is on proper manners and nonsexual communication. People who favor this style are less likely to approach a potential partner and aren't flattered by flirting, but they do tend to have meaningful relationships.

•Sincere: The style most often cited in the study. Relationships involve strong emotional connections and sexual chemistry and are typically meaningful; they are based on creating emotional connections.

•Playful: People favoring the playful style often flirt with little interest in a long-term romance, but they find flirting fun and enhancing to their self-esteem. They are less likely to have important and meaningful relationships and this is the type that is most uncommon.

"One is more effective than another, depending upon what you want to achieve," he says. "For example, a playful flirt is more likely to have short-term relationships. People with a playful style of flirting are effective in having that type of relationship but may find it difficult to let people they're interested in know they want something more."

Take the flirting styles survey: Click here! 

Yes, it is a real survey and to prove it here are my results..kinda funny! Enjoy!!!

*******************Your results are in!********************

This is what your flirting style means for your dating life. For all of these responses, you are compared against other people your same age and sex. The flirting style with the highest score tells you the most about your dating life.

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50–60%

Physical

0–10%

Traditional

0–10%

Polite

90–100%

Sincere

40–50%

Playful

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Physical style: physical

You scored higher than 50–60% of other survey takers in your demographic.

For this flirting style, you are very similar to the majority of people. It is not a dominant style for you. This flirting style probably doesn’t play a big role in your flirting behavior.

Traditional style: not at all traditional

You scored higher than 0–10% of other survey takers in your demographic.

You do not believe that men should make the first move and women should not pursue men. You are very unlikely to feel uncomfortable in a flirting situation where a woman takes charge. You tend to be not at all choosey about who you flirt with, and it is very unlikely that you are selective about who you pursue romantic relationships with. In serious relationships, you do not believe that you should know a potential relationship partner for a long time before approaching them. You are very unlikely to seek out important and meaningful romantic relationships.

Polite style: not at all polite

You scored higher than 0–10% of other survey takers in your demographic.

You do not believe that courtship should be cautious and rule-governed. You are very unlikely to use proper manners, non-sexual communication, and less forward behavior during courtship. You tend to be not at all choosey about who you flirt with, and it is very unlikely that you took a long time to get to know someone before you knew you were romantically interested in them. You are very likely to like the singles scene and the way people typically flirt with one another. You are very unlikely to seek out important and meaningful romantic relationships.

Sincere style: very sincere

You scored higher than 90–100% of other survey takers in your demographic.

You are very interested in seeking emotional connection and showing sincere interest when flirting. You find flirting very flattering, and strongly believe that personal and private conversation is the best way to develop romance. When flirting, it is very likely that you are:

• Successful
• Confident
• Able to quickly determine relationship potential

In serious relationships, you are very likely to experience a strong emotional connection and sexual chemistry.

Playful style: playful

You scored higher than 40–50% of other survey takers in your demographic.

For this flirting style, you are very similar to the majority of people. It is not a dominant style for you. This flirting style probably doesn’t play a big role in your flirting behavior.

-Lost N Vicious Reality

Just for laughs: Hi, I'm Lost!

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Little White Lies: A simple case of an overactive imagination gone haywire or a disaster waiting to happen?

It’s said that in order to be a good liar you have to have a pretty terrific memory to remember all the lies you told and who you told them to, because let’s face it once you tell one, it kind of goes south from there. Soon you telling more lie to cover-up the original transgression. Eventually, you the fine line distinguishing fiction of non-fiction begins to blur. You might even start believe your own lies, because, these false truths can take on a life of their own.  

Societal rules about telling lies can be very confusing and maybe even misleading. Almost every day you can read headlines about a public figure being accused of telling lies, and at the same time we are being told that telling a lie is not acceptable by your parents, friends, teacher, colleagues, and your boss.

When I was growing up, like most kids, I wanted to seek approval from and please my parent. And as a child, we sometimes think it will make their parents mad if they tell the truth about doing something wrong, and then they find that their parents get even madder when the kid tells a lie!

As a parent I have come face to face with this very dilemma, with my son. He has been spinning the most intricate of tales to get out of doing his homework and even making up stories when asked about a certain event. When I tell the tales to my friends and colleagues, it’s often seen as cute or imaginative he is. I suppose that is my fault partly, seems he has inherited my overactive imagination.  I suppose it can be viewed as humorous when kids do things, but as you get older and you know that telling the truth is important you can still get lots of confusing messages. Think many of you parents out there have experience this as well. You child telling you, ‘”. The teacher says I don't have to do the homework". And what parent what’s not to believe their child, not me. I don’t want to question my son and let him believe that I don’t trust him.  After awhile those half truths, start becoming a little more elaborate to the point its so obvious that your child is making these stories put. Because come on, a week of no homework? That is a little hard to swallow even for me.

It’s normal to wonder, what are lies anyway? Well, according to the dictionary it says that to tell a lie is to purposely say something that is not true because you want to make other people believe it.

The next logical question is, why do people tell lies? We the first response that comes to mind is people use lies to get themselves or someone into or avoiding trouble.  Sometime we do it to avoid being ostracized and to avoid embarrassment, or maybe in order to fit in with the group. Oh, a lot of times we find ourselves doing the most drastic things to get accepted or to make themselves look more interesting to others by exaggerating, bragging or boasting. We all love the attention that results from others praising us. Even we find ourselves telling lies in order to keep secrets or even to avoiding hurting someone's feelings. I know for kids, it sometimes turns into a game or a way to have fun.

Lots of people think that there are two kinds of lies, 'bad' lies and 'white' lies. They think that 'bad' lies are never OK but 'white' lies might be OK.I asked some children what they thought about lies and this is what they said. I think they have some pretty good ideas.

Think many people disagree on whether omitting something or saying nothing was the same as telling bad lies. I believe that is almost worse sometimes, because you know it wrong but you do intentionally leave out pertinent information.  When you are a little kid you use your imagination a lot and don't always know what is true and what isn't.

As you get older you learn the difference between what is true and what isn't. As you become a 'nearly teenager' you want to have more privacy in your life and in your thoughts. You may feel that you are more grown up and able to take care of yourself, but your parents may sometimes seem to treat you like a little kid. So sometimes you just say nothing and hope you won't have to answer a direct question. As adults our lies and the repercussions get bigger.  More often than not lies end up hurting others more than it affects the person telling the lie.  You would be amazed to here the intricate webs some people weave in order to deceive. I have no patience, but rather pity those who have become professional liars, because their reality is lost in the abyss of half truths they have created for themselves. It soon consumes you and swallows you whole leaving you destitute and delusional. Some habits die hard and this is the reason I believe that instilling values and a solid foundation is important from the very start in the formidable years. Before such twisted habits form and mutate into the relentless cycle of deceit.

-Lost N Vicious Reality

My Thought of the Day.....

For all that you do, for just being you, thank you I wouldn't dream of having it any other way-Lost n Her Element

Jealousy: Confessions of the Little Green Monster

The sooner you realize that not everything in life a contest the better. Because let’s face it, envy drains the soul and is usually an expression of insecurity. No one is immune to envy, and you probably know from experience that it can make you miserable. Truth be told, you cannot be happy and envious at the same time. In fact, one of the greatest secrets to happiness in life is learning how to eliminate envy. Acknowledging the need to do so can be painful, but accepting material limits or advantages may lead to a change of values and a more spiritual and fulfilling way of life. The way you change envy is by changing your perspective. While you may not be able to completely change the feelings that cause envy, you can change your perspective and eliminate it from your life. The challenge remains to stop short of comparing yourself to others. Satisfaction comes from doing your best. You don't have to imitate somebody else's lifestyle.  

I have come face to face with the little green monster and I honestly do not like how it makes me feel. Because, I have never considered myself a jealous person and I am not ready to give into those evil little voices of the green monster lurking in the shadows.  I determined to not to fall prey to those urges of self doubt and the first step in overcoming is identifying the root cause. Knowing the cause for jealousy in any situation is the first step towards overcoming such negative emotions.  I have come to the realization that certain environment breeding cesspool of doubt and the unknown. There isn’t anything scarier than coming face to face with your own insecurities especially, if you have always been fairly confident and self assured. If in fact this is the result of exposing myself to said environment, I have determined that the only recourse is to remove myself from it completely. So, this is what I have decided to do. You might think I am a tad drastic, but honestly I think at this point this is my best measure to combat the current dilemma.

Once that has been established there is a need to take a stock on reality. It is important to not let your assumptions get in the way of a healthy relationship just because you feel jealous based on imagined problems.  And  I havey met the most amazing person with the most unbelievable heart. He has brought the sparkle back to my smile and has given me a reason to believe in all that is possible. We have found each other in the midst of all the madness and chaos of a crowded room. I have treasured the opportunity to be a part of his life and share mine with him. I hope that I am able to overcome this seemly debilitating feeling I have looming over me. I pray that he find the heart to be patient with me as I try to regain my footing and collect my thoughts.

Far be it from me to make any judgments call on any platform or the people how use it, but honestly, If  you knew the many lies that people tell each other, and lengths that people went to spin tales of deceit for the sake of cheap thrills. I wish I didn’t know half the things I knew or have come to know.  I just think that it is high time I given up the source of my current discomfort. It is not a crutch or a replacement for living my life and forging forward. Once it loses its entertainment value, it’s time to take a high road and save myself. I chose salvaging my sanity and redeeming my soul. I will longer expose myself to something that is consuming me alive.  It is a temporary fix and for at least now that is what I plan to do. Is it realistic to break this habit, we will see. Hahaha!

                                                                                    

I have long since subscribed to the theory of positive thinking. Like in every situation where negative emotions get in the way of rational thinking, positive thinking helps. When jealousy burns, try thinking of better things. And I can honestly say I have never felt an overwhelming sense of envy towards anyone in any given situation. I have always celebrated other successes as my own. But, it seems my Achilles heel seems to be these murky affairs of the heart. Guess deep down inside I deathly afraid of losing a grip on reality.  Call it insecurities if you like. I am not ashamed to admit it. I find myself face to face with my demons as I am being chased by that pesky evil little green monster who wants to possess me.  

Jealousy results in a front to vent out its wrath, so focus on eliminating all negative emotions.

When jealousy creeps into your head try to remember you are listening to your small self. It is your big self that embraces your heart; therefore, you want to pay attention to your big self. 

Your big self is the part of you that is kind, respectful, and loving of you. It is the part of you that you welcome and enjoy. It is the part of you that makes you whole. 

Your big self is the qualified decision maker because it combines reason and emotion into a balanced mix. It is your big self that knows yourself worth and that knows you deserve happiness and love. Your big self knows how to identify and live these good emotions. 

Your little self is like a radio signal that you only listen to once in a while and you don't even enjoy. Why tune it in at all?

Madness: A journey into the abyss of my effervescent soul

Artist: Muse        Song Entitled: Madness

Thanks a million E for sharing this awesome song with me! I must have listened to it like a million time now! Muah

A journey into the abyss of my effervescent soul, I can no longer withhold

I can’t get these memories out of my subdued mind, I beg you please give me a sign

Through the dark tunnels of my subdued mind, not knowing what I would find

I have finally seen the light,  I try as I might to keep it in sight

How can I continue to fight this madness that has seemingly engulfed me whole?

I stand before you helpless and exposed with my heart no longer closed

This madness that has possessed me, sets my desires ablaze

To the deepest, darkest, passages of my vivid imagination
Mischievous images dancing around playing tricks on my mind

Fueling my  sinful desires, lighting fire that burns eternal

For a stolen moment with you, what I would not do

I surrender my effervescent soul, I surrender my weary heart

To a lifetime of servitude as you as my master

I fight the burning urges scorching me from the inside out

Is this sublime feeling real, or has this madness twisted my take on reality

A journey into the abyss of my effervescent soul, I can no longer withhold

I can’t get these memories out of my subdued mind, I beg you please give me a sign

Through the dark tunnels of my subdued mind, not knowing what I would find

I have finally seen the light, I try as I might to keep it in sight.

-Lost n Her Element

Lost's Take on Love: It's innately who were are!

LOVE.... 

 We could make excuses and try to resist it....
We could shun and avoid it.....
We could runaway and fear it.....
We could place on pedestal and worship it.....
We could venture out to seek it....
We could even deny its very existence
but, fundamentally, we are "It"
Immerse yourself; embrace love openly, fully...
Love is indeed as simple as it is beautiful.

Together, we must have faith

We must believe that it will guide us home!

-Lost 

We have all attempted to understand the meaning of love. I will now try my hand at interpreting what love means to me. To me, love is the most pure of emotions. I would even go as far as to say, love is innocent and untainted so crisp and clean. It means being able to place someone else's needs above our own. It even gives us the strength to shed our innately selfish desires. It allows us to see the good in others and grants us the power to see past the imperfections and accept them for who they are.  Love, sets our weary soul free, allowing us to open the doors to our hearts. Releasing the floodgates if you will, freeing our emotions, allowing them to explore the exquisitely divine possibilities yet undiscovered.

Love has no boundaries. It transcends time and space. Love even transforms yet is still eternal. Love is just love pure, simply beautiful.  Love is comfort, an ease, it is security, it is being able to be you without fear of being judged and let your guard down, to harbor no secret to let down any wall that surrounds your heart.

Love yields us helpless, drives us to the depth of the abysses just short of sending us over to the brink of sheer insanity. It enslaves us, shackled by the bonds of love; we surrender ourselves to a lifetime of servitude to our capture as they are the key holder to our hearts. It challenges us to be better; it inspires the most complacent of minds to achieve the most miraculous of feats.

But is love, by itself, enough to make a relationship work? Sometimes I wish love alone were enough, yet in the world we live in sadly, love alone is not enough. Love requires intimacy, nurturing and care in order to survive and flourish.

Don't let fear keep you from experiencing the most wonderful of emotions. Open the door and walk into love's house and allow it to flow like water through the bridges of your life feeding your soul and filling your  veins. Allow it to course freely through you, engulfing you immerse yourself in the mystical possibilities yet untold. 

-Lost n Her Element

Unconditional Love: Bringing the concept to the 21 century

“Unconditional love is the kind of love that you have for a person not in spite of, but because of their flaws.”

Ever looked back on a past relationship and wondered, “OMG, how could I have not seen that coming?” Well, cut yourself some slack, because there may actually be a biological force in play in addition to your emotions. It is believed that that romantic love may actually be suppressed by  the brain waves associated with critical social assessment of other people and negative emotions. In other words, once you get close to a person or once you find yourself falling in love, your brain has a reduced need to assess the nature of that person’s character and resists harboring any negative emotions towards him or her. That is right, you read me correctly. One can be literally blinded by love. 

The problem here is that blind love can make someone unwilling or unable to see the realities of a poorly matched partner from the outset. Often, this results in one person getting blindsided later on in the relationship that outside observers intuited as an inevitable outcome. I think we all have asked ourselves at one point or another age old question, ‘”If one really loves another, does that mean you love them not matter what? Whilst most would probably be most inclined to answer off the top of our heads that true love should be completely unconditional, when you really analyze this issue, the reality is that there have to be boundaries in order for two people to exist healthily in a reciprocal and loving partnership.

In the early stages of relationship many of us would say that their love for one another is unconditional. There is much talk of loving each other regardless of flaws and finding the "perfect partner." I know that some experts may disagree with the idea of unconditional love between partners citing issues of co-dependency and enmeshment, but in my view, a great relationship has an element of love and affection for one another that supersedes any faults or flaws. Call me a hopeless romantic, but I believe that love, even between two souls bound together, can and should be unconditional. Which implies love without bounds, limits or reason; in other words, a love that will stay exactly the way it is today, regardless of any upcoming circumstances or changes in either of the people involved within the relationship. In reality, this implies a love forged by unbreakable bonds which will remain strong, regardless of whether it’s returned or not.

Typically, the term is associated with relationships between a parent and a child or other family member. You may fight like cats and dogs, but that basic love and lasting bond will never be changed. But some of us might beg to defer on that one. Because let’s face it even relationships between family members isn’t as sacred as some would think. Though ideally, of course it should be.

However, when this concept is applied to romantic love, things seem to get a little blurred. If love is given completely without any conditions attached, then forgiveness for any and all transgressions or slights can be reasonably expected at all times, and without question. By this definition, you are in effect saying you will be willing to tolerate whatever comes along whether good or bad, because you love the person, regardless of how healthy or unhealthy the relationship is for either partner. 

For most of us, romantic love means being in a relationship with someone that is mutually rewarding, pleasurable and beneficial. If anything ever happens to change those conditions, that romantic love can and often does fade. It’s different for everyone, depending on your temperament and your romantic history or reference point.” As long as those basic understandings are being met, a couple can love each other ‘unconditionally’ without losing anything in the process. It’s only when those basic conditions start to break down that the rationality and logic behind “unconditional love” should be challenged. 

Though, the rational side of me firmly believes that love without some conditions is a sure fire recipe for disaster and, most likely one would find oneself in emotional free-fall. With that in mind, we decided to delve further into this issue in order to ascertain how you can love with all your heart while still keeping your head on straight. 

Perhaps it’s time to reframe the idea of “unconditional romantic love” in more moderate terms. The concept may be more attainable if it’s viewed as something that endures despite unfavorable circumstances. In this case, you wouldn’t ask yourself or a partner to disregard the relationship’s realities, but instead to look at it as the glue that helps you work through obstacles together or strive to compromise with each other in mutually satisfying ways while respecting each other’s pre-set limits and boundaries. With that in mind, you can truly be free to love with all your heart.
Unconditional love is love that is free. You are never really free to love when you have attachments that keep you from loving freely. You hold back from expressing love because of rejection, you hold back from expressing love because it is not reciprocated. When you allow yourself to love unconditionally, you are not afraid of rejection. You love fearlessly and freely without needing anything back. The most liberating kind of love is the carefree kind of love. It is giving of yourself freely and not holding back.

When you love unconditionally, you are simply following your heart while having detachment from results. Conditions are attachment to results. You may desire to have things go a certain way with someone or something. But when you unconditionally love and accept what is, even if it does not happen the way you intend it to happen, then you create the conditions by which the essence of what you truly desire can happen because it is no longer a requirement for it to happen, but it is free to spring forth.

Realistically, when certain actual conditions are missing in a relationship, the love disappears and the relationship will dissolve and in order for a mature love to sustainable and flourish, the conditions for supplying five essential human needs must be met including appreciation, respect, compassion, trust and companionship. If any of these is compromised by lies, neglect, rudeness, unnecessary criticism, stubbornness or secrets,  then the love is no longer grounded. Unconditional love is the idea that our affection for each other is not based on a certain set of behaviors or characteristics.

Whilst it’s nice to know there will be love and forgiveness no matter what, you need to know your partner cares enough to get upset if you cross the line you need to know that your partner has enough self-respect to have limits, and that if a limit is crossed, there will be negative consequences. More often than not, people lose respect for each other when these boundaries aren’t established. If you don’t set these clear boundaries, it can be an unspoken invitation for your partner to walk all over you… not unlike a doormat. Truly unconditional love to the point of overlooking personal slights and infringements upon one’s well-being can be dangerous. Unconditional romantic love is always unhealthy… to say, ‘I love you regardless of what you do or say to me’ is absurd. Not only is it unhealthy for the one loving unconditionally, it’s also unhealthy for the one on the receiving end. It creates a false ideology. It isn’t acceptable for one to be completely selfish, putting my own needs and desires above my partner’s at all times. In unconditional love-based relationships, the receivers often stagnate in their own personal growth and development by having their narcissistic egocentrism constantly reinforced. 

The key thing to remember here is that love, unconditional or otherwise, isn’t supposed to hurt. Remember that you deserve to be happy, too. So while facing a barrage of hurtful things happening within a relationship, I don’t question the idea that people do choose to love unconditionally; the more important question becomes, why would you? Think it is important to remember that whilst love does blind people initially to their mate’s flaws, over time, the reverse happens people eventually come to expect and overlook the good.

Final note: Remember that no one can complete you or make you happy  per say, they can only compliment or accentuate your happiness and share in your happiness. You can not give something you do not possess yourself. So, though it may be a long and lonely journey don't rush into any situation blindly. Know yourself and your own limitations. If you are not ready or able to give 110% of yourself to your relationship or partner, take the high road. And someday, when you least expect it, destiny will comma knocking and life, love and everything in between will come full circle. Till then be happy!

-Lost

I Run to You

When the all comes crashing down and all I hear is this deafening sound, I run to you

When I am lost and confused  and I feel it's all coming undone, I run to you

I have been down this road before, but this time you're here

With you near, I have nothing to fear

Because I know you are but a heartbeat away

Let's make it clear, I wish you were here

I don't want to run, I don't want to hide

Does not matter which way I turn, all roads of my heart leads to you

 I would give anything, to be able wake up to your smile

To feel your warmth and radiating presence 

When the all comes crashing down and all I hear is this deafining sound, I run to you

When I am lost and confused  and I feel it's all coming undone, I run to you

I have been down this road before, but this time you're here

With you near, I have nothing to fear

Because I know you are but a heartbeat away

Let's make it clear, I wish you were here

Your one of a kind, there is no one like you 

Who stirs my senses so, lights the fires within me

I can't get enough of you, it seems I am addicted to you

As insane as this notions seems, you've become something I can't live without

You are my own personal drug, I am helplessly hooked on you

When the all comes crashing down and all I hear is this deafining sound, I run to you

When I am lost and confused  and I feel it's all coming undone, I run to you

I have been down this road before, but this time you're here

With you near, I have nothing to fear

Because I know you are but a heartbeat away

Let's make it clear, I wish you were here

You  taste so sweet, like a forbidden fruit

You taunt and tease, and keep me begging for more

You are a sight for sore eyes, a comfort to my weary soul

Engulfing me, Encapsulating me whole

I am scared out of my mind of what I might find

But I am willing to risk it all for a chance to experience something so profound

The simple notion of you and me, sends my heart racing and I find it hard to breathe.

-Lost n Her Element

Artist: Lady Antebellum -  Song Entitled: I Run To You