MAKING YOUR RELATIONSHIP A PRIORITY FROM THE START
It’s perfectly normal that the honeymoon phase cannot be maintained indefinitely. The reality is that we all have competing priorities that we which we have to learn to constantly balance. The problem isn’t that we no longer are the sole focus of one another's world. The problem happens when we take our relationships for granted to such a degree that we move from the sole focus to barely being a blip on one another's screen.
The slow, steady process of distancing, distraction, busyness, competing obligations and exhaustion does not manifest itself overnight. Throw physical distance and the time difference into the mix and that once hot, all-encompassing relationship is now a slow, smoldering ember which is in danger of soon burn out if not addressed.
The easiest way to keep your relationships great is to pay attention. Your relationship should always be a priority--not the only priority, but definitely a main priority. This should show up in your actions not just words. Just because you say it’s so, doesn’t make it so.
I want to highlight a few things that I found interesting and might even be useful to you also. There are a few steps you can take incorporate into your life that will help make the journey to building a positive relationship with your partner.
Let’s get real guys!!! FFS!!!! Pay attention to each other by nurturing relationship. Feed the flames and enable the embers to continuously burn. If you feed the flames, the embers will keep you warm on a brisk summer night. If you neglect it, you will soon find yourself alone in the dark wondering wtf happened....
It’s also just courteous to check in with each other making sure to share your day with your partner as often as possible several days a week if not daily. Ensure you remain interested in theirs and share yours. Silence does not bode well for intimacy. I don't believe it's to much to ask, do you?
And ensure you make time for each other schedule dates, talk times, and spend time one on one. This is what brought you together in the first place. Get back to the basics.
And ummm believe it or not your presence is required so be there! Shut off all technology every night at a reasonable time and give one another your undivided attention. Would you be ignoring her/him on your first date?
Always be respectful to each other. Treat your partner as though you admire them and respect their opinions. Show them you only have eyes for them. It’s not only disrespectful to flirt, but it’s just plain rude.
Building a positive mutually beneficial relationship with your partner can at trying at times and even seem impossible. Let's be honest with ourselves now, nothing in life that is worth anything comes without a little effort and why should relationships be any different.
Building a positive mutually beneficial relationship with your partner can at trying at times and even seem impossible. Let's be honest with ourselves now, nothing in life that is worth anything comes without a little effort and why should relationships be any different.
Don't get me wrong, by no means should the said journey be so painful or hurt to the point where it becomes unbearable. No one is asking you to endure a relationship if you feel that you are sailing without a captain or crew, you know what I mean, jellybean?
I think as trying as it may seem at times as long as you both are committed to grow and nurture your relationship on a daily basis, the building of a positive relationship with your loved one can also be quite easy. Do yourself a favor and pay attention to your relationship from the start; it’s the best way to avoid a potentially painful ending.
LOST’S CHALLENGE: If you have good relationship that you want to hold on to, ffs pay attention to it! Before it's too late!!!
1 comment:
Nice suggestion......thanks bong for sharing
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